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[queenoftheskies]

This new man that I was complaining about...

Calls me "Dear" and pats me on the arm.

Ask me how much I want to smack him!!!

End of rant. :)

Comments

[jmeadows.livejournal.com]

Or you could just lighten up

First-- Er, wow. This is J's journal. Who are you to tell her what to do?

Perhaps this guy calling her "dear" is not intentionally patronizing. The problem is, it IS patronizing, whether he means it that way or not.

I've been called "dear" a lot. And "hun", and "darling", and whatever other number of names people use when they can't remember their waitress's name. And you know, there weren't too many times I took it as whoever (male or female, believe it or not) as using it to be offensive. Most of the time it was because they couldn't remember my name, and "hun" is usually more polite than, "hey you!"

The fact is, women don't take everything men do as intended sexual harassment.

Considering this guy seems to have singled out three women to do this to is pretty distrubing to me, and leads me to believe J is NOT overreacting.

Or a bunch of us who've actually been sexually harassed could just be crazy, but I'm guessing not.

[(Anonymous)]

First, babe, I wasn't telling anybody wwhat to do. "Or" was the operative word, as were the words "unintentionally offensive."

Since neither one of us were present and don't know the intent of the speaker, I'd suggest waiting to find out all the facts and not jump to any conclusions about this man's alledged intentions or his manner in using the word "dear."

Maybe he's from the south and is one of those people who touches people when he speaks to them and isn't aware of how offensive his mannerisms are.

It happens.

[slugwriter.livejournal.com]

Shoot, forgot to sign in when I posted and ended up being anonymous. I hate that.

First, babe, I wasn't telling anybody what to do. "Or" was the operative word, as were the words "unintentionally offensive."

Since neither one of us were present and don't know the intent of the speaker, I'd suggest waiting to find out all the facts and not jump to any conclusions about this man's alledged intentions or his manner in using the word "dear."

Maybe he's from the south and is one of those people who touches people when he speaks to them and isn't aware of how offensive his mannerisms are.

It happens.

[jmeadows.livejournal.com]

Please note the lack of jumping in my statements above. I never said he was. It does sound suspicious.

Like I said, I've been called a lot of things that weren't meant anything subversive.

Also, I'm going to pretend the derogetory "babe" thing didn't happen. Just because I know you're trying--badly--to make a point. Except I think you made mine.

[(Anonymous)]

Oh, no, no point to be made. I call everybody "babe." Except for those I like.