Believe it or Not... (Don't Read This If You Don't Think Everyone is Allowed Their Own Opinion)

[queenoftheskies]

Not all children are bad and evil and misbehave.

Not all parents are lazy and fat and have more and more kids so they can sit at home and not work and get money for them.

Some children are raised right. Some are responsible. Some do nice things and have manners and are kind to people. Some love their parents very much. Some would never consider running around screaming in public or knocking people down.

Some children are good citizens. Some children give blood and do community/charity work. Some kids work really hard in school and get good grades. Some kids go to college. Some kids chip in the money from their jobs to support the household.

Some kids grow up to be wonderful people and very responsible adults.

Some kids grow up to have children of their own. Some kids grow up to be childfree...sometimes it's even because they've seen how hard their own parent(s) had to work to support them and know it might not be the role for them.

Some parents may not be the best parents in the world, but they love their children and they try really, REALLY hard to be the best that they can. Both for the sake of their children and because they want their children to be those wonderful people and responsible adults.

Not everyone should have kids. It's easy to tell that by going to the store or a restaurant or to a school event where there are lots of terrible kids and even worse parents.

If you don't want kids, that's YOUR business. I wish more people DIDN'T have kids. Most people are LOUSY parents.

But, if you don't like people telling you that you SHOULD have kids, maybe you should think that people who HAVE kids don't like you talking crap about them when they're being RESPONSIBLE parents. (I'm not talking about the parents who deserve bad talk.) But, just like all childfree folks aren't created equal, neither are all parents.

NOT ALL PARENTS AND THEIR KIDS ARE BAD.

I support EVERYONE's right to choose what they want to do with their own life.

Don't tell me that ALL kids are bad or that ALL parents are lazy and want to sit at home all day and have more kids to get money.

I work my ass off to support mine and to also find the time to spend with then because I love them and because raising them RIGHT is MY responsibility.

I don't ask for your sympathy. I don't ask for your approval. I wanted kids. I love my kids. I expect my kids to behave. I knew kids were hard work when I decided I wanted them. I don't mind the hard work.

One thing is for sure. My kids certainly don't bad-mouth people/specific groups of people the way you do. My kids know not to be prejudiced. My kids know that every situation is NOT created equal.

***This was prompted by some things I've read (yes, some here on LJ) and heard recently and is not directed at any one person or group. I just needed to get it out of my system.***

Comments

[the-faery-queen.livejournal.com]

no i don't mean it to be funny, because i am sure, for some, it is a holiday! some fathers may take care of the kids with the wives, btu i bet there are alot who will still want the wife to do it while they lie around and be paid for it. just as there are those who have lots of kids and live off benefits. there will always be those who exploit a system and we shouldn't be encouraging it.

[queenoftheskies.livejournal.com]

There are definitely people who exploit every system available to them. Most states in the U.S. are trying to crack down on this to make sure it doesn't happen...at least not so extensively.

Will they be successful? I don't know.

However, my original point was that, just because there are some bad parents and some bad kids, that doesn't mean that ALL of us parents are that way.

[the-faery-queen.livejournal.com]

totally. my parents weren't bad:) but for me, my parent ranty angst isn't really about bad parenting anymore (ok sometimes it is) but its more to do with the benefits they get over everyone else. bad parenting isn't something that will be cured with the father staying home. my dad worked, i turned out fine! its just silly when people think they can fix something by throwing cash/parents at it. bad parenting can only be fixed by, in my opinion, courses. i think parents should go on a course, how to be parents. and, i guess, by not letting people with a history of being crap, have any more kids!

there was a woman in the uk who has three daughters, all teenagers and ALL mothers. her excuse, bad sex education at school. seriously, she blames the school for her kids being pregnant, rather than herself. if she had had some sort of help, some sort of course, and if we weren't so quick to blame other people for our mistakes, i think less people would turn out being troublesome kids. it tends to be, tho i hate to say it, a certain type of kid that ends up being a brat. and its usually those with poor education, who has the kid too young. so i think more education, more support for parents, and less throwing cash at them directly :) then there will be fewer bad parents! :)

think my thing went off on tangents then, but yeah, i agree with you. not all parents are bad, not all kids are bad, but those are the ones we hear most about.

[queenoftheskies.livejournal.com]

not all parents are bad, not all kids are bad, but those are the ones we hear most about.

And, see out in public...definitely see a lot of them out in public.

[the-faery-queen.livejournal.com]

yeah, but often that's because its stressful. i NEVER understand why a mother takes her kid out with her and her husband and then gets ratty. leave the kid at home with the husband! (or make him shop, whatever) and some places have play areas. its hard for kids, to be dragged around places, looking at boring things, with their short attention spans. they act up, parents yell and scream, and then we see bad parenting. we forget, kids aren't angels. they act up, but parents forget, they are kids! they aren't little grownups

tho god, some of the girls do dress that way