I think that's the perfect attitude for resolutions.
You know, I'm still considering mine, though I know the heart of them, I think.
I have grown a lot as a writer this year and have been privileged to gain some insights that I want to put into day-to-day practice.
I want to have more confidence in myself.
I want to edit more and submit more, while continuing to write.
I want to write more than I did this year. This year was not conducive to writing.
Now, if I wanted to add some long-shot (but MAYBE attainable some day) goals, I'd like to get an agent and sell a screenplay. Might as well think big, right?
BTW, I shall have comments for you this weekend. I apologize for my tardiness, but I got sick and am moving in slow motion.
Don't worry about the timing for comments on the short story. I'm currently writing a new short story for a contest at http://www.libertyhallwriters.org.
I'm working on comments right now, actually. I read through again this morning while I was fresh. I feel like I need to know a story before I can make intelligent (hopefully) comments. :)
Ooooh, cool. Good luck with the contest. If you need a short story beta reader, just yell.
I wish I could write short stories, but not many come out of me.
I have four resolutions... 1. to get a house or apartment 2. get back into shape 3. finish any of my many writing projects 4. submit poetry or a short story
Lately, I've been lucky with requests for my work. And, that makes me feel really special...because people were able to see something in my ideas and because I presented them in a way that drew attention.
But, actually sending it out terrifies me because I feel like none of it will ever be good enough.
That's why it's hard to tell myself, "I will get an agent this year," "I will sell a screenplay this year."
I've been surrounded by so many negative people for so long that it's hard to believe in my abilities as a writer.
Do you think all resolutions are changes in behavior, though?
For me, they're goals.
I think I've already gone through the changes in behavior needed to accomplish the goals. I just need to battle real life, learn and grow in order to meet them.
For me, personally, I think even more important than getting an agent or making a sale, is the desire to "get it right".
So, I probably take things at a slower pace than most people because a lot of what I want out of this (in addition to getting an agent, selling a novel/screenplay) is the satisfaction of writing the very best novel/screenplay I can write. :)
Yeah, jail time would be bad for me, I think. LOL... I'd probably get stuck with some huge, hairy man that took a fancy to me. LOL....
I set goals... I know that it's basically the same thing, but goals seem a little more... I don't know, concrete or something. Goals are something to shoot for and if I come up a little short, I try to give myself a little leeway. But breaking resolutions seems a little more... I dunno... bad. LOL.... Oh I love the semantics games we play with ourselves.
Yeah, that sort of makes sense. I do get that. I set goals for changes I want to make in my life too though. Goals like exercising more, wasting less time, writing more, submitting more, etc. Those are all changes I want to make in my life. And so I set goals, but I give myself a little wiggle room just in case I fall a little short. While I may not hit the exact goal, I may come close and that's okay too. For some reason, resolutions to me, sounds like they're more concrete, like there's less wiggle room. I dunno, I play silly semantics games with myself I suppose.
It often seems like people set resolutions up to be something they want to attain at some future point in their life instead of something they can actually accomplish during one year's time.
I think resolutions/goals need to be completely attainable. Otherwise, what's the point in making them, you know?
However, like you, I think we need to cut ourselves some slack and make allowances when we can't reach those goals. Real life does intervene many times and there's nothing we can do about it but roll with the punches.
Resolutions and goals absolutely need to be attainable things. They need to be realistic. And a lot of people aren't. So they set unrealistic resolutions/goals and get so down on themselves when they miss the mark. It's completely self-defeating and completely self-destructive. Because you're right, life does intervent from time to time and we can't do anything but roll with it.
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Date: 2006-12-29 03:12 pm (UTC)What about you?
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Date: 2006-12-30 03:05 am (UTC)You know, I'm still considering mine, though I know the heart of them, I think.
I have grown a lot as a writer this year and have been privileged to gain some insights that I want to put into day-to-day practice.
I want to have more confidence in myself.
I want to edit more and submit more, while continuing to write.
I want to write more than I did this year. This year was not conducive to writing.
Now, if I wanted to add some long-shot (but MAYBE attainable some day) goals, I'd like to get an agent and sell a screenplay. Might as well think big, right?
BTW, I shall have comments for you this weekend. I apologize for my tardiness, but I got sick and am moving in slow motion.
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Date: 2006-12-30 04:56 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-12-30 06:08 pm (UTC)Ooooh, cool. Good luck with the contest. If you need a short story beta reader, just yell.
I wish I could write short stories, but not many come out of me.
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Date: 2006-12-30 03:07 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-12-29 05:13 pm (UTC)1. to get a house or apartment
2. get back into shape
3. finish any of my many writing projects
4. submit poetry or a short story
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Date: 2006-12-30 03:08 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-12-30 03:10 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-12-30 03:12 am (UTC)I just wish all of mine didn't require so much...belief.
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Date: 2006-12-30 06:04 am (UTC)::hugs::
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Date: 2006-12-30 06:05 pm (UTC)You are so sweet.
I'm going to TRY to learn to believe in myself for 2007. That's a HUGE task.
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Date: 2006-12-30 06:07 pm (UTC)especially ones about already being sucessful and having an agent and being published...and selling screenplays
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Date: 2006-12-30 06:13 pm (UTC)Lately, I've been lucky with requests for my work. And, that makes me feel really special...because people were able to see something in my ideas and because I presented them in a way that drew attention.
But, actually sending it out terrifies me because I feel like none of it will ever be good enough.
That's why it's hard to tell myself, "I will get an agent this year," "I will sell a screenplay this year."
I've been surrounded by so many negative people for so long that it's hard to believe in my abilities as a writer.
Whew...long-winded. Sorry. :)
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Date: 2006-12-30 07:17 pm (UTC)"The agents will ove my writing...it is not only good enough, it's fantastic!...I am an agent magnet"
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Date: 2006-12-30 07:20 pm (UTC)::hugs::
Thank you. :)
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Date: 2006-12-30 07:33 pm (UTC)you're welcome!
the agents will love your writing!
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Date: 2006-12-30 04:54 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-12-30 06:00 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-12-29 06:46 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-12-29 10:06 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-12-29 10:14 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-12-30 03:10 am (UTC)For me, they're goals.
I think I've already gone through the changes in behavior needed to accomplish the goals. I just need to battle real life, learn and grow in order to meet them.
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Date: 2006-12-30 03:09 am (UTC)I'd like to find an agent, get published and.......
Date: 2006-12-30 03:05 am (UTC)Re: I'd like to find an agent, get published and.......
Date: 2006-12-30 03:10 am (UTC)Re: I'd like to find an agent, get published and.......
Date: 2006-12-30 03:54 am (UTC)Re: I'd like to find an agent, get published and.......
Date: 2006-12-30 06:05 pm (UTC)Sort of.........
Date: 2006-12-30 07:50 pm (UTC)Re: Sort of.........
Date: 2006-12-30 07:52 pm (UTC)For me, personally, I think even more important than getting an agent or making a sale, is the desire to "get it right".
So, I probably take things at a slower pace than most people because a lot of what I want out of this (in addition to getting an agent, selling a novel/screenplay) is the satisfaction of writing the very best novel/screenplay I can write. :)
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Date: 2006-12-30 03:32 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-12-30 06:09 pm (UTC)It's interesting to see, sometimes, how the goals change and grow throughout the year, isn't it?
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Date: 2006-12-30 05:59 pm (UTC)I'll probably be posting mine in my journal actually.
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Date: 2006-12-30 06:04 pm (UTC)That's a good one. It would help keep you out of jail. :)
Do you make resolutions? Or do you set goals?
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Date: 2006-12-30 06:18 pm (UTC)I set goals... I know that it's basically the same thing, but goals seem a little more... I don't know, concrete or something. Goals are something to shoot for and if I come up a little short, I try to give myself a little leeway. But breaking resolutions seems a little more... I dunno... bad. LOL.... Oh I love the semantics games we play with ourselves.
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Date: 2006-12-30 06:21 pm (UTC)Maybe it's semantics, but I think it can be two different things.
To me, resolutions are changes I want to make in my life. Goals are things that I strive for. Does that make sense?
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Date: 2006-12-30 06:30 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-12-30 06:36 pm (UTC)I think resolutions/goals need to be completely attainable. Otherwise, what's the point in making them, you know?
However, like you, I think we need to cut ourselves some slack and make allowances when we can't reach those goals. Real life does intervene many times and there's nothing we can do about it but roll with the punches.
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Date: 2006-12-30 09:35 pm (UTC)