Closure...AGAIN
Mar. 29th, 2006 05:47 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
queenoftheskiesOkay, on Sunday, I tried to leave some rather unpleasant events behind me.
No sooner had I posted that I was through with them than they got worse. LOTS worse.
I got an unpleasant e-mail Monday night, which I chose to ignore, rather than answer. I was through with it, and didn't want it stirred up again. (Though I must admit that I thought the timing of the e-mail interesting.)
Yesterday morning, I woke to find myself flamed on this person's LJ. I guess the intent was public humiliation. Did it work? I don't know. But, it did make me go read the e-mail that had arrived the night before.
The thing that really hurt was the fact that this person insists that I talked behind his back and that I never talked to him. I'd tried for a number of days to get him to talk to me and all I got were e-mails putting me off, telling me to wait, telling me to have patience. While he was doing this.
Yeah, it hurt. But, I learned my lesson. I learned that you can offer to talk. You can't MAKE people talk. Whatever they get in their minds, you probably can't change it. You can only feel bad for so long and then you realize they're manipulating you. That's what they want you to feel like before they knock you down and stomp on you.
That's fine.
I came unglued. Not on my LJ because I don't think that's the proper place for it. I did come unglued in e-mail and, while I got it out of my system, it troubled me because it takes a LOT to make me shaking angry and I wondered if, instead of telling him how I felt, I should have just ignored it and grieved for a dead friendship and moved on.
But, what's done is done.
I have unfriended this person. I will refuse all future e-mails. This won't happen again.
I'm done with it. I'm NOT going to get dragged into it again. I just needed to finalize my thoughts so they're not banging around in my brain.
Consider this a piece of paper. Consider it burned. It all goes to the place where other unhappy memories go. And, hopefully it's not one of those that will pop up again.
No sooner had I posted that I was through with them than they got worse. LOTS worse.
I got an unpleasant e-mail Monday night, which I chose to ignore, rather than answer. I was through with it, and didn't want it stirred up again. (Though I must admit that I thought the timing of the e-mail interesting.)
Yesterday morning, I woke to find myself flamed on this person's LJ. I guess the intent was public humiliation. Did it work? I don't know. But, it did make me go read the e-mail that had arrived the night before.
The thing that really hurt was the fact that this person insists that I talked behind his back and that I never talked to him. I'd tried for a number of days to get him to talk to me and all I got were e-mails putting me off, telling me to wait, telling me to have patience. While he was doing this.
Yeah, it hurt. But, I learned my lesson. I learned that you can offer to talk. You can't MAKE people talk. Whatever they get in their minds, you probably can't change it. You can only feel bad for so long and then you realize they're manipulating you. That's what they want you to feel like before they knock you down and stomp on you.
That's fine.
I came unglued. Not on my LJ because I don't think that's the proper place for it. I did come unglued in e-mail and, while I got it out of my system, it troubled me because it takes a LOT to make me shaking angry and I wondered if, instead of telling him how I felt, I should have just ignored it and grieved for a dead friendship and moved on.
But, what's done is done.
I have unfriended this person. I will refuse all future e-mails. This won't happen again.
I'm done with it. I'm NOT going to get dragged into it again. I just needed to finalize my thoughts so they're not banging around in my brain.
Consider this a piece of paper. Consider it burned. It all goes to the place where other unhappy memories go. And, hopefully it's not one of those that will pop up again.
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Date: 2006-03-29 02:16 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-03-29 04:41 pm (UTC)I read your later posts from this morning -- all these job nibbles and bites? That's wonderful! I hope one of these interested workplaces is a good fit. :-)
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Date: 2006-03-29 05:37 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-03-30 05:13 am (UTC);)
(not directed at you, but your plight. sorry you got sucked in to something like that, if only momentarily. GOOD FOR YOU at standing firm now.)