Hmm...No Insult Intended and the Anyonymous Poster

[queenoftheskies]

To the gentlemen present...

My earlier post was not a slam at men. It was a complaint about one particular person that was being disrespectful and rude. If it had been a woman, I'd have felt the same way.

(And, yes, we have a local bitch at work...but that's a long story I'm not going to post and the new owners have put her in her place and she does not bother anyone any more.)

It was also a post about the fact that, even in this day and age, there is not equal pay for equal work. That is not this new man's fault, so that comment was not directed toward him. It's just the way society works.

The way he treats people is his fault. He's rude to men as well...only, he doesn't call them dear. :)

He takes every opportunity to run to his friend (who works at a different facility, by the way) and try to get around the gentleman he should be reporting to in Manufacturing.

I just was venting because I felt bad. I didn't think everyone would want all the little minor details of the situation and how it affects everyone.

As far as the "dear" comment goes, I was not screaming sexual harrasment. I just think he's rude and does not treat people with respect. He seems to do this only to certain women, not every woman he talks to. I think someone has already said something to him about it, so that may end on its own. I have not complained, nor do I intend to.

And, to the Anonymous Poster, if you read any more of my LJ posts, maybe you'll see this, just because I doubt you'll go back and read my comment to your comment...

No, it's not a jealousy reaction. The job in question was just created. It's not a promotion and I would not like to work in Manufacturing. I'm trained for Accounting, and the purchasing was only part of my job until they hired someone for it. The point was that I was doing that PLUS two other jobs and didn't need an assistant to help me.

If I was the only person he was rude to or who had been having trouble with him, I'd assume it was me, but since I'm not...maybe it's not just me.

Comments

[dragovianknight.livejournal.com]

You didn't post anything you need to apologize for...though a couple of your commenters might want to apologize for being priviledged assholes.

I deserve a cookie for not calling them out in your journal, by the way.

[ex-roanoke414.livejournal.com]

Anonymous poster = coward ...end of story.

[elialshadowpine.livejournal.com]

What she said.

[irysangel.livejournal.com]

Don't you love how you have to explain yourself on your own journal?

Sometimes I wish people would realize that it's a diary -- a public diary, but still a diary -- and treat it as such. Vents go here. Ramblings go here. Arguments? Not here.

[dragovianknight.livejournal.com]

Oh, now, you should just lighten up. ::snerk::

I swear to gods, there's a feminist_rage post in this, if I could make my brain coherent.

[debg.livejournal.com]

(nodding like a bobblehead in total agreement)

I finally disabled anonymous posting in my own journal. Anyone wants to give me grief can damned well sign their name.

And BTW, calling you "dear" is patronising and insulting behaviour, period. It be understandable if the bloke was in his eighties, but other than that, it's a control mechanism, and infuriating.

[greatsword.livejournal.com]

It's actually fairly common dominance behavior. It happens to men, too - usually without the patronizing "dear" which is also dominance behavior.

I've learned to not let it ride - and with me it doesn't have the sexual harrassment aspect.

[debg.livejournal.com]

Yes, exactly. I rarely had it happen to me - I'm fairly formidable to look at - but on the rare occasions it did, the "I suggest you not touch me without an invitation again, if you value your primary reproductive organs" was audible across the street.